... hope my two cents worth...

" So why is it precious?"

"Because besides my full-time job as a wife to Arie, a mother, cook, driver, nanny, cleaner, gardener, entertainer (and so on an on and on) to my lil princess Nicole, I have only very little time for myself to do my own thing except the necessity, thus I really need to spend that time wisely.
In the need of "sharing" things inside my mind to keep my sanity, so here we are...

.. and I hope my two cents worth..."



Sunday, February 27, 2011

moo vs mii

I was always wondering why all the nurse, dietician, pediatrician recommended to give cow's milk instead of formula for toddler. As always I forgot to ask the reason whenever I saw them face-to-face. Maybe because I've always have bigger issues to be discussed with them. So I began my research on the internet, and oh yes - I love forum and blogs of parents. It feels soo real and the opinions are based on real experiences.

Here is my summary:
* Cow's milk has all the nutrition needed for 12-24 old and is cheaper (?) I need to compare their prices.
* Cow's milk is easier to get when you are out and about (you don't have to carry milk dispenser for the formula powder) - and even better if your toddler can drink from the cup or using straw, you don't need to carry any bottle too.
* Cow's milk is a good to be given after breastfed so you don't have to wean from formula to cow's milk later on - eventually they would have to give up formula and have the cow's milk.
* Formula is quite high on sugar so most nutritionist don't like them at all.
* Formula is good to be given for baby (above 12 mos) as some has problem to digest cow's milk. Or baby with allergic history.

I will add up if I find more facts about this, in the meantime, here is a very good article about cow's milk and formula:
(retrieved from http://www.mumzone.com.au/breastfeeding/which-milk-for-toddlers-toddler-formula-vs-cows-milk/ on monday 28 February 2011, 1:06am)

Which Milk for Toddlers? Toddler Formula vs Cows Milk

By Lorraine Cuadro

Recently I have done a fair bit of research into which milk is best for toddlers as many mums seem to be concerned about whether their little ones should be drinking cows milk, low fat milk or toddler formula beyond their first birthday.

The World Health Organisation recommends exclusive breastfeeding for a baby’s first 6 months and for breastfeeding to continue until at least 2 years of age. So I guess if you’re breastfeeding your toddler then the formula verses cow’s milk issue isn’t relevant to you, that’s one less thing to worry about, YAY!

The Australian manufacturers and importers of infant formula have entered into a voluntary agreement that adheres to the principles of the World Health Organisation’s International Code of Marketing of Breast Milk Substitutes. Basically the code and the agreement prevent formula for babies 12 months and under to be advertised in Australia. The reason for this agreement and its advertising restrictions is to protect breastfeeding.

However, these restrictions do not apply to toddler and follow on formulas. So by labelling toddler formulas as "gold" or "formula", marketing companies are able to advertise baby formula simply by association. This may be one of the reasons for such heavy advertising of toddler formulas.

Bellinda Kontominas a Medical Reporter for the Sydney Morning Herald (06/09/07) quotes a Sydney paediatrician Dr Patricia McVeagh as she said "Unfortunately the advertising preys on parents’ vulnerability… Nutritionally there is no need for toddler milk in healthy kids, and it’s much better to have 600 millilitres of cow’s milk or a cow’s milk product like cheese or yoghurt."

And while many nutritionists will tell you that formula is the equivalent of junk food, I guess to be fair it does have its place. It can supplement the diet of fussy eaters and children that could be missing out on iron and calcium due to their restricted diets. And while there are other ways to combat fussiness there are times when real life takes over and the demands of work, other children, partners etc can make toddler formulas convenient.

The president of the Australian Lactation Consultants Association, Gwen Moody, said food should replace milk as the main source of energy during a child’s second year. "Mothers buy the formula and they also give their child cow’s milk… so either the child doesn’t eat because they’re not hungry, or they do eat, which can lead to weight gain." This is another point to keep in mind if you find that your child is not eating.

During my research I was surprised to find that it has been recommended in the National Dietary Guidelines for Children and Adolescents that all children in Australia over the age of 2 years consume reduced-fat milk. This is because the saturated fats in full fat milk accumulate in the arteries over time increasing the risk of heart disease, and that the reduced-fat milk varieties generally contain more calcium than the full fat milks.

Toddlers between the ages of 12 - 24 months however do need the full fat milks and while soy milk shouldn’t be offered to babies under 12 months, toddlers over 2 years with a lactose intolerance can be offered soy milk that contains added calcium.

So the end of the day keeping things simple is usually the best way to go. Cows milk is great for toddlers, it contains everything they need to grow healthy and strong. It’s cheaper than formula, easily available if you’re out, it’s great on cereal and it’s something you wont have to wean your toddler off as they get older. So why complicate things by using toddler formula if you don’t have to?

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Benjol

Suatu pagi yang dingin di musim panas, rasanya beraaat sekali untuk membuka mata ini. Sementara Nicole kecil sudah sibuk berkeliaran kemana-mana dengan mata terbuka lebar. Karena kasihan dan juga 'dimarahin' Nicole karena gue tidur terus, gue bawa dia ke ruang mainnya, nyalain tv dengan acara anak-anak dan gue kembali ke sofa...

..... gue duduk di sofa, ngeliatin Nicole main sendiri......


....pagi amat sih ni anak bangun hari ini, masih jam 6 pagi nih, berarti gue baru tidur 4 jam karena semalem gue nonton dvd sama arie sampe larut....

DUK!!!!!

Tiba-tiba kepala gue cenut-cenut... gue buka mata gue... disisi gue ada makhluk kecil yang sedang tersenyum maniiiis sekali sambil memegang palu mainannya!
Yah ampuuun ternyata dia yang memukul kepala gue!!! dan dia pikir itu sesuatu yang lucu...

Gue bilang "no Nicole, ga boleh pukul mama!" dia masih nyengir
akhirnya gue pura-pura nangis... lalu dia mulai menunjukkan ekspresi prihatin, dan keluarlah air mata buayanya soalnya dia cuma ikutan nagis kurang dari semenit trus kabur main lagi sama mainannya.... yah elaaah...

Monday, February 14, 2011

Valentine?

When people ask what do I do on valentine's day, I always have trouble in finding the answer. Haaa... any answer seems like a wrong one to me, because the truth is... I don't celebrate valentine. Not that I'm being cynical about the idea of sharing the love on that special day but I don't feel the necessity of that celebration. It's not that something worth to celebrate in my opinion simply because i don't feel IT, unlike christmas or easter or anniversary or birthday that always have special meaning to me, the occasions that I could really FEEL that I owned it, being part of it.

Let me put it this way, I can't feel a sudden love on valentine's day. I feel love everyday -sounds cliche I know, but that's the truth -and I don't feel more or less love on valentine's day, I just couldn't. No matter how many flowers that I got, how nice the valentine card is, I still couldn't feel the different to any other day.

In comparison to those occasions I mentioned earlier, I don't need anything to make them loved. I don't even need any christmas present and still I will sing the merriest song all day long.

So one day I decided not to celebrate valentine's day for one simple reason, because I can't feel it.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Shoe ON!

What a proud mama I am!

At 16 months Nic has succeed to put the right shoe on her foot all by herself!
I went out from my study room and found her sat on the floor, busy doing something. At first i could only saw her back and I thought she found some food dropped on the floor or even worse- dirt. I hurried come to her to try to prevent whatever she's holding to get into her mouth. As I approached her, i was really surprised to see what i saw... Nicole with her shoe ON! My eyes quickly search for Arie - spontaneously. Shortly after i could not find Arie in the room (he was mowing the lawn outside), i felt quite bad for not having confidence in Nic, who thought an 16 mos child can put her shoe on by herself? The right shoe to the right foot. I'm amazed truly. Well done Nicole!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Ernie in The Shoe

People say picture could describe a thousand words, so i'm going to put up some pictures to show how hard i've work to keep the house tidy.



Well, you could use a bit of your imaginations to picture the rest of the rooms of course, because i just gonna show one tiny part of it. I couldn't bear to take a picture of "kapal pecah" - indo slang for huge mess.

As a truly Indonesian who has been trained to look at the bright side of everything like we all always say - for example "lucky it didn't hit you (although the rock has broke your window that would cost you big ticket)", so naturally i will try to find that bright side of Nicole's mess, and guess what? I found it! it did make me laugh at least...


When i watched her playing with it, she actually used her shoe as Ernie's ride! What a cute lil imagination we have here! Maybe Nic will be come a creative person when she grow up later.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Sincia Fever

Tonight will be Chinese new year eve and right now I'm sitting alone in front of my powerbook, accompanied by my belgian chocolate mousse, enjoying my quiet time - of course my lil princess is asleep. Everything is ready. I'm not those kind a person who believes in myth, but it just feels right to prepare the house for a special celebration. So all the dirty laundry are washed, carpet vacuumed, wooden floor mopped, everything is tidy and neat, ready for tonight. Quite impressed to myself for doing all the house works in the hottest days in the year - yup, yesterday was 43C degree, i think today a bit (tiny bit) cooler than yesterday.

All of sudden, i feel something is missing deep down in my heart. A feeling that i've never experienced before. It feels like you have a vintage radio that could never play the right song anymore, you still love it, you can touch it, but you has lost its soul... funny how I described how much i miss my ama. She's 91 years old, physically healthy but unfortunately her mind has reached her senior moments. With her increasing senility i barely know how is she doing nor feel the connection between us anymore. She's there, she laughed, she sleeps, she can do anything except having a good conversation with me just like the old time...

Ama is there, but she's not there.

It's tough in the time like this having to live far away from your family and relatives. I really miss my ama... i miss talking to her, i miss laughing with her, i miss being scolded by her, oh i miss you soo much ama...

Teardrops falling from my eyes.

I hope you can still feel my love to you. I love you ama.